Can you Change your Habits'(My project 3)

Can you Change your Habits'

Has your spouse  or any of your friend told you lately that one of your habits has become annoying or offensive? Have you had heated words over this issue? 

 The longer you are embroiled in conflict over distasteful habits the greater potential you have for diminished companionship.  If your mate is exhibiting these destructive attitudes or making these comments, you should seriously consider examining your behavior.
Few things are more demanding than eliminating bad habits, since they are part of our daily routines and personality. It takes days of patience and practice to break old habits.

What Is A habit?

A habit is any behavior that you practice without really thinking about it. Habitual behaviors can be beneficial and liberating to you because of your ability to perform these tasks without having to consciously think about your every action. Habits can also be very destructive and lead you into arguments because your words or actions are offensive  When a behavior is practiced, day after day, you will naturally train yourself to form habits. As you regularly perform this habit you become skilled at your behavior. It becomes easy and comfortable for you to take this action over and over again. Ultimately, you begin performing this action automatically. This action has now become your routine behavior. Let me give you some examples of some everyday habits.

Each day you get up in the morning and unconsciously do many things by habit. You don’t think anymore about how to get dressed, tie your shoes, or how to brush your teeth; you do these things by habit. You then walk out the door and get into your car and drive to work or school unconsciously performing a multitude of complex tasks. However, the first time you drove a car you needed to think about every action you performed,

Why Are Bad Habits So Hard To Change?

Consider the following hindrances as you attempt to understand why you struggle to change.

1.     I don’t believe it’s a problem. Bad habits are very difficult to change because you may not think that your habit is really that bad. Consequently, you won’t see the need for change.

2.       . I don’t want to change. Furthermore, bad habits are hard to change because we are basically selfish by nature. Therefore, even though you may agree that your habits are offensive to your mate, selfishness keeps you from making any significant change that will rectify the problem.

3.        I’m trying but failing. You may see the need to change and possess a strong desire to modify

your behavior, but another power is at work inside you that frustrates your success

4.     I give up. Many people give up in the midst of the changing process. Why would someone do this? Look at it this way. With every habit in your life, you have become skilled at performing it, the behavior is automatic, you don’t consciously think about how to do it, and you are very comfortable doing this behavior. Therefore, when you attempt to change any habitual behavior you will have the exact opposite experience. This also means that you'll have to consciously think about what and how to perform this new behavior, which will make it very uncomfortable until you’ve formed the new habit.

 techniques for a successful positive change in your habits 

1.       Acknowledge and identify your bad habits: First step is to admit you need to change. If you are in a state of denial, you won’t recognize that you have a bad habit to change.

2.       2. Pick a habit for 30 days: Prioritize your bad habits and focus on one for 30 days. Take a 30-day trial to re-condition your habits. If you are committed to changing at least one habit, you will see remarkable results,

3.       3. Realize that it’s in us to change: Don’t believe the old saying, “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks.” You can break a bad habit if you really want to. No one else can change your habits, if you don’t want to.

4.       Intention & plan to change: “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” A healthy process of change in character requires a gradual pace, which entails planning. Develop concrete milestones to measure your progress.

5.       Replace a bad habit with a good one: Completely eliminating a habit is more challenging than replacing it with a more productive habit. Moreover, it’s crucial to replace the lost natural needs, such as the need to socialize and to be entertained with something healthy.

6.       Exercise (physical and spiritual): A habit of regular physical exercise is obviously important for lasting weight loss. But you may not realize that exercise helps in eliminating a number of bad habits. For example, among smokers who become competitive runners, for example, over 80% give up smoking.

7.       Moreover, exercising your will power (struggle to fight temptations) for 30 days helps you kick all kinds of bad habits and form new good ones. Willpower is like a muscle; the more you exercise it, the more you strengthen it.

8.        Change your environment: Resist the negative peer pressure by finding a better company of friends. Collective action to change is very powerful. I remember one saying that

9.       “A good friend and a bad friend are like a perfume-seller and a blacksmith: The perfume-seller might give you some perfume as a gift, or you might buy some from him, or at least you might smell its fragrance. As for the blacksmith, he might singe your clothes, and at the very least you will breathe in the fumes of the furnace.” 

As you take these steps to change your habbit  it will motivate your spouse  or anyone close to you to make the changes he or she needs to as well. Remember the Golden Rule and apply it to your life Therefore :whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them" (Matt. 7:12). Whatever you want, you must first give!

Abdul kalam said

You cannot change your future but, you can change your habits And surely your habits can change your future.